Your grief will not bring back the dead, but the application of reason and fastidious integrity displayed by humans such as John R. Turner might prevent their deaths. You say that "I have known a lot of vets, but none as cold as you." Such a statement, from a 75-year-old man, marks you as a highly unfortunate person. He [Turner] has few peers, but I, myself, have known at least ten of his ilk. These persons understand interconnectedness, unlike their denigrators. They are too intelligent to not know their own capacity for understanding, and too intelligent to not know that this is a throw of the dice by nature. I cherish such persons. They work to make the world, the world I live in, a better place.
Perhaps the confusion which has resulted in your statement: "What is simple is your commentary, overly simplistic, and tragic and shallow" results from the widespread Unitarian belief in the dichotomy between "the head" and "the heart," which Unitarians generally, and brazenly, illustrate by stating that Unitarians represent the head, while Universalists should be content with being characterized as the heart. This confusion is the consequence of lack of knowledge of just how the human brain works. I urge you to read Antonio Damasio's Descartes Error: Emotion, Reason, and the Human Brain. You will then understand that the reasoning power and the morality of Mr. Turner is connected to a highly developed emotional center, not the sentimentalism of tears, idle tears. Of course, his "emotionalism" works better at prevention of brutality, than grieving at its outcome, because his purpose is based on the reasoning that it is better to improve our behavior, not to simply bemoan it.